How BBQ Can Rekindle Community in a Digital Age
by Bartlow's BBQ on Feb 20, 2025

In today’s fast-paced, technology-driven world, it’s all too easy to find ourselves sitting alone, scrolling through social media, instead of sharing a meal with friends and family. Research has shown that loneliness is on the rise, and it’s affecting our mental and emotional well-being. According to a study by Cigna, nearly half of Americans report feeling lonely, and this sense of isolation can have serious consequences for our health. As a BBQ business owner, I believe we can use the art of barbecue to reignite the spirit of community and connection that so many are missing.
Barbecue has always been more than just a cooking method; it’s a way to bring people together. Whether it’s a backyard cookout, a church potluck, or a tailgate party, the act of sharing a meal fosters relationships and creates memories. In the hustle and bustle of daily life, we must make a conscious effort to gather around the table and enjoy each other’s company.
The Bible speaks powerfully about the importance of community and loving one another. In Hebrews 10:24-25 (NIV), we are reminded: “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.” These verses highlight the significance of coming together, sharing our lives, and uplifting one another in our faith in the context of a church gathering.
As a pitmaster and a pastor, I see BBQ as a vehicle for this kind of fellowship. Cooking and sharing food can be a beautiful expression of love. Remember the story of Jesus feeding the 5,000? He didn’t just provide a miracle for their physical needs; He created a moment of connection, community and trust through the simple act of sharing a meal by multiplying loaves and fishes.
So how can we use BBQ to combat loneliness and foster community? Here are a few ideas:
1. Host BBQ Gatherings: Invite friends, family, or neighbors over for a BBQ. Create a relaxed atmosphere where everyone can contribute a dish, share stories, and enjoy each other's company. The smell of smoked meats and the sound of laughter can do wonders for the heart!
2. Engage with Your Community: Partner with local organizations, churches, or schools to host BBQ events. This not only helps build relationships but also serves a greater purpose by bringing people together for a cause.
3. Encourage Conversations: As you grill and serve, encourage meaningful conversations. Put away the phones and focus on connecting with those around you. Share your favorite BBQ stories, recipes, or even life lessons learned over the grill.
4. Create a BBQ Club: Consider forming a BBQ club in your community where enthusiasts can gather to share techniques, recipes, and of course, good food. This can foster friendships and create a sense of belonging.
5. Practice Hospitality: Remember that hospitality is a biblical principle. Romans 12:13 (NIV) says, “Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.” By opening your home and heart, you can create an inviting space for others to gather and connect.
In a world that often feels divided, let’s use BBQ as a means to come together. Let’s fill our tables with good food, laughter, and love. As you fire up your grill, remember the power of community and the joy that comes from sharing a meal with those you care about.
So, let’s get cooking, gather our loved ones, and create a feast that nourishes not just our bodies, but our souls. Let’s be the catalyst for connection and the spark that ignites relationships in our communities. Together, we can turn the table back toward fellowship and away from loneliness—one BBQ at a time! From my backyard to yours, Less Hate, More Love, Good BBQ.
-Scott